We Choose "Us"

Mom and Dad Together             In the movie “The Family Man”, Nicolas Cage says “I choose ‘us’ ”, and the neoclassic movie “Back to the Future” reminds us that the choices that we make now will affect our future.    

During this time of life parents are
very vulnerable and in need of each
other’s love and support and it is important
to consciously choose “US”. Each of
us has a Love Language, something that
makes us feel especially loved. Now is a
good time to think of the 5 Love Languages, so that you are not ‘throwing’ love past each other and so that you both feel loved and supported.
When one gives an unappreciated back
rub and one gives a not fully appreciated gift, chances are that the one giving the back rub has a love language of physical touch and would appreciate a back rub themselves, and the one giving the gift has a love language of receiving gifts and would really appreciate a
thoughtful gift…Unless we realize this we
can keep loving another person the way
we would like to be loved and not necessarily the way that they would like to be loved, and sometimes this results in ‘throwing’ love past each other, which results in both trying to love and neither feeling very loved. Take some time in this vulnerable time of your lives to affirm
each other and choose “us”.

• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Receiving Gifts
• Acts of Service
• Physical Touch
(Gary Chapman, 2010)

What is your Love Language? What is your partner's Love Language?

Five Love Languages Quiz
• I feel especially loved when people
express how grateful they are for me, and
for the simple, everyday things I do.
• I feel especially loved when a person
gives me undivided attention and spends
time alone with me.
• I feel especially loved by someone who
brings me gifts and other tangible expressions
of love.
• I feel especially loved when someone
pitches in to help me, perhaps by running
errands or taking on my household
• I feel especially loved when a person
expresses feelings for me through physical

The Crazy Cycle
Just a little reminder that at this time in
your life you need to look after each
other more than ever, even while you are
looking after your baby. Life may be a
little topsy-turvy, short on sleep, long on
things to accomplish in a day, and just
seeming to be 24/7 work, but a little
love for one another will go a long way.
Don’t forget to show love according to
your Love Languages, and take a look at
this ‘Crazy Cycle’.

 "A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense"                               Proverbs 19:11
"The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down"            Proverbs 14:1

We have different needs. When he
shows love and she shows respect it
works. When he doesn’t show love and
she doesn’t show respect it produces a
‘crazy cycle’ that affects everyone.
Ephesians 5:33 says, “…each one of you
also love his wife as he loves himself, and
the wife respect her husband…”
(Emerson Eggerich 2004) 

Drink At Your Own Well (Proverbs 5:15, 18)
Michele Weiner-Davis is a therapist who
used to listen to couples, hear their
problems, not getting along, making
each other mad, etc., and she would say
“Yup, you have a case, I think you
should leave and carry on with your
life”. However, after 15 years of saying
this to people, she realized that no one
actually was getting on with their life –
they were still attached. Besides she found that when they carried on to another
relationship they had to do a lot of work
to make the second relationship work…so she concluded that it is worth putting the same amount of work into the relationship you have.
This is a gift you can give yourselves and your baby.